iPredator: A person(s) who engages in victimizing others using digital technology and telecommunications motivated by deviant sexual fantasies, aggressive needs for power and control, retribution, religious/political retribution , psychiatric/psychological manifestations and/or personal/financial gain.
iPrey: iPrey is defined as an inclusive term for all humanity who uses the internet, telecommunications, and mobile digital technology. Exactly as in the wild, the iPredator stalks his/her iPrey using tactical strategies to increase his probability for success.
iVictim: iVictim is defined as an individual who interfaces with the internet and mobile digital technology devoid of the necessary insulation strategies, levels of awareness, a healthy form of skepticism and structured tactical methods when interfacing with cyberspace. The profile of the victim is the optimal target the iPredator seeks for his/her deviant endeavors. The iVictim is not bound to remain as such, but does not take the necessary steps required to reduce their probability for becoming a target.
CyberStealth: Cyberstealth is defined as a method and/or process by which the iPredator is able to establish and sustain complete anonymity while he trolls or stalks his prey. The iPredator uses cyber stealth to create a profile of what he/she is most successful in luring his prey into vulnerability and submission. Using cyberstealth tactics and criminal/deviant intuition techniques, the iPredator targets iVictims ignorant to the assailant’s stealth tactics and modus operandi.
Facebook: The iPredator
If in fact the female and ex-male relatives are predators or iPredators, their probability they will ever know the error of their ways is hard to determine given I know little about them other than you describing them being dramatic, deceptive, and hollow in their claims to profess their love for others. The three details you did note though are not adaptive ones.
I recently rewrote an article I posted at my blog a couple of months ago applying it to the Casey Anthony trial. Its titled Casey Anthony- Remorse, Regret, and Sorrow. I will now post it here for your review. Although the article is presently geared to her and her case, the content applies to all people who walk through life as you say "inflicting pain."
After you read it, I'm pretty sure you will have your answer. Thank you for writing and I hope the article attached will be helpful advise. If you do find the article helpful, please have others read it when they have family members or loved ones they feel may have serious personality construct distortions.
You can also go to my scribd.com account and read some of the articles I've written.
Dr. Michael Nuccitelli